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I want to be like everybody else

November 5, 2012


Today we start  a new section of our blog. We have a consulting psychologist Maria who will answer the questions of our readers, both kids and parents. If you have something to ask please send us your questions.

Question:

My son want to be like everybody else, if I buy something different for him, not like his friends have, he refuses it and ask for something exactly the same as other kids have. Is there any way to tell him that being different and unique is actually pretty cool thing? – Tony

Answer:

Unfortunately, you have not mentioned how old is your son. At some age kids need to feel that they belong to some group, understand that they are not worse than other children, that their clothes and toys and stuff is not worse. And for them this “not worse” means “exactly the same”. At this point it’s very important for a child to have all the same that his peers have. So you could just buy him what he wants (well, all that you can afford anyway) and relax. Just try to tell your son that we all are different and unique and that it is crucial to listen to himself and follow his wishes and beliefs. Try to create a feeling inside him that he is very special and important and then as time goes by this feeling will also affects his choices at the mall.

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